Forgiveness
Forgiveness, I think forgiveness is a funny thing. As Christians we are taught to forgive and forget. That God has forgives us for our sins when we ask for it. However, what if someone never asks you to forgive them or what if you can forgive but not forget? Or what if you can place the incident in the past, but you still hold onto the pain it caused? We all know that we can't go back into the past and change things nor should we really want to. Ideally, we should learn from our past mistakes, be it our mistake or someone else's that causes the pain. I believe they have to go together, forgiveness and forgetting.
At times I feel like I do forgive and forget very easily. I feel like that I can usually find something to learn in whatever the issue was. It may not be immediate forgiveness but it does happen. It is harder, but I admit that forgetting about what happened it harder. I used to say I forgive the person, but I won't forget and I'll never trust that person again. WOW how harsh is that. As I sit here, I think back to all of the ugly, horrible, wrong things I have done in my life. What if the people I did them too could not forgive me or trust me again? The good news is I'm not the same person I was, growing up. I have become a pretty nice person, in my opinion. But still, think about that.
Now here is the harder question, what if the person you hurt so badly is YOU. Yes, you...little old you. What if you do something so bad (or in your opinion) that you can't forgive yourself? You can forgive everyone else that hurts you, but you can't forgive yourself? Can you ever trust yourself again? Mistakes happen. If they did not happen, we would not need the word "mistake" now would we. How do you go about starting to forgive yourself, for making a stupid decision, heck for making tons of stupid decisions?
One day at a time, just like you do for others that hurt you. Just put one foot in front of the other and keep walking. Pick your head up and keep going. I don't care if you have to look at yourself in the mirror every single day for months, just do it. By not forgiving yourself, you hurt yourself and really limits the happiness and fullness of your life. It is very hard to do, but forgiveness really is good for your heart. Trust me, I know what I am talking about. Unfortunately.
Remember if it is unladylike, fattening or fun, it must be good for you!
Ta ta for now
At times I feel like I do forgive and forget very easily. I feel like that I can usually find something to learn in whatever the issue was. It may not be immediate forgiveness but it does happen. It is harder, but I admit that forgetting about what happened it harder. I used to say I forgive the person, but I won't forget and I'll never trust that person again. WOW how harsh is that. As I sit here, I think back to all of the ugly, horrible, wrong things I have done in my life. What if the people I did them too could not forgive me or trust me again? The good news is I'm not the same person I was, growing up. I have become a pretty nice person, in my opinion. But still, think about that.
Now here is the harder question, what if the person you hurt so badly is YOU. Yes, you...little old you. What if you do something so bad (or in your opinion) that you can't forgive yourself? You can forgive everyone else that hurts you, but you can't forgive yourself? Can you ever trust yourself again? Mistakes happen. If they did not happen, we would not need the word "mistake" now would we. How do you go about starting to forgive yourself, for making a stupid decision, heck for making tons of stupid decisions?
One day at a time, just like you do for others that hurt you. Just put one foot in front of the other and keep walking. Pick your head up and keep going. I don't care if you have to look at yourself in the mirror every single day for months, just do it. By not forgiving yourself, you hurt yourself and really limits the happiness and fullness of your life. It is very hard to do, but forgiveness really is good for your heart. Trust me, I know what I am talking about. Unfortunately.
Remember if it is unladylike, fattening or fun, it must be good for you!
Ta ta for now
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